We immediately reject the words “Pain” and “Mourning.” Nobody willingly wades through the troubled waters these two small words imply.
Nevertheless, common sense tells us we will likely experience both of these emotions at some time in our lives. The pain we feel for all kinds of things brings with it a sense of “ mourning,” which can be overcome in greater or lesser amounts of time depending on the gravity of the circumstance. In some cases it may be overcome in a matter of seconds or minutes, while in others it may take DAYS, months, or even years.
The idea behind this message isn’t to stay stuck in the troubled waters of pain and suffering, rather to understand the process so we can break the cycle and move on. To get out of the pain and the sadness, I propose we “Give DAYS to Pain.”
First Cycle: Pain
D epression
A nger
Y earning
S uffering
Have you ever felt a pain inside which doubles you over taking you down?
From there is only a short skip and a hop into the dark cloud of depression. Anger and frustration stop by uninvited and sit to stay, producing toxic and sometimes even violent thoughts as we Yearn to return to some sense of normalcy. Our stress level increases as anxiety envelopes us in her gloomy shawl, obscuring our world in pain and suffering. When we look into the mirror, all we see is but a faded copy of what we once were.
It is important to know this cycle of pain must first be experienced before we can move on to the second part, which enables us to break the chains of pain.
Second Cycle: Desire and Determination
D esire
A ttitude²
Y es
S urpass
While we don’t choose the pain we are exposed to, we do choose how we handle it to free ourselves from its grasp.
To get out of the eternal questions of: “What should we do?” and “How should we do it?”; we can fan the flames of our inner Desire and change our state of mind.
The key we need to escape our dilemma may be found in our family, our religion, our work or some other kind of project. 
As we get involved in what interests us, each time we do, we fan the flame of Desire necessary to break the cycle of pain and continue on our merry way.
With our mind connected again with what drives us, we can once again pursue what we once wanted. A light, previously lost it in the haze of our pain, now shines at the end of the tunnel giving us the initiative we need to liberate ourselves from the pain. We take one step, then another, and then another. With an excellent Attitude²(squared), mixed together with a boatload of confidence, soon we can once again say Yes to life to Surpass the situation with new resolve and renewed energy.
We accept what has happened, learn what we can from it. In time our guiding light begins to burn brighter. What once doubled us over in pain taking us down to the ground, becomes the reason behind our new found vigor to direct our destiny; and it all begins by “Giving DAYS to Pain.”
∞ Rob McBride ∞
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